What is a gay sex coach?
A sex coach can be different from a therapist. Where a therapist would devote time and attention to a person’s past, a sex coach takes a more practical approach that’s focused on the here and now. In other words, a therapist works on the “why” and a coach works on the “how”. A sex coach works with you to remove any blocks withholding you from your sexual goals. Unlike in therapy, mental health conditions are not addressed, although they may still be taken into consideration. If you’re struggling with a mental health concern, therapy might be the best place to start. Also, if your sex challenges have an underlying history and emotional causes a therapist may be a better choice. But if you’re needing more guidance on how to have better sex, such as hands-on work and demonstration, a sex coach is the better choice.
The Couples Center has trained therapists sensitive to and experienced with people of all identities.
A gay sex coach has the experience to help you with any of the following:
- How to accept your sexual identity
- How to improve low self-worth or self-acceptance when it comes to sexuality
- How to address and help solve any sexual incompatibility
- How to resolve differences in sexual desire and/or sexual drive
- How to deal with sexual infidelity
- How to manage open relationships as they relate to sex
- How to address and manage sex addiction or sex compulsion
- How to manage erectile dysfunction
- How to reduce anxiety during sex
- How to deal with a sexless relationship
- How to manage body images issues
- How to address and manage sexual trauma
- How to deal with painful sex or a fear of penetration
- Discomfort around sex talk, exploration, or fantasies
- How to deal with performance anxiety
- How to set healthy boundaries
- How to manage general anxiety about sex (whether from a medical condition or personal fearfulness)
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Finding a Gay Sex Coach
The first thing to consider when searching for a sex coach is their qualifications. Anyone could call themselves a “sex coach”, so be aware of their certifications and educational background.
Not every sex coach will be right for you, so it’s important to find a coach that fits your specific needs. In addition to there being different personalities and styles of sex coaches, there are different modalities they focus on. When searching for a gay sex coach, ask what type of modalities they include in their sessions. Gay and queer people have specific experiences in society, and they have specific needs when it comes to sex. Therefore, you’d want to find someone who understands that uniqueness and can relate to it.
Sex coach modalities:
- Tantra coaching
This is a way to tap into the client’s erotic energy using spirituality.
- Somatica sex coaching
Also referred to as “Somatic sex education”, this is a hands-on approach to dealing with relationship issues affecting sex.
- Intimacy coaching
Intimacy is closely tied to sex, or what’s considered good sex. Intimacy coaching will focus on increasing this aspect by working on your emotional connection.
- Sexological bodywork
This is an erotic body-based modality that includes breathwork, masturbation witnessing and coaching, orgasmic yoga, scar tissue remediation, and erotic massage.
- Sex surrogacy
If referred by a licensed psychotherapist, sex surrogacy coaching can include mutual nudity and two-way touch, as well as manual, oral sex, or sexual intercourse.
What does a Gay Sex Coach Do
A sex coach’s role:
- They teach, train, guide, motivate, collaborate, inspire, monitor, validate, and listen to help their clients achieve their sexual, intimacy, and relationship goals.
- They use their training in human sexuality to offer resources, techniques, and tools tailored to each individual.
- They conduct exercises and give homework.
- Many sex coaches take a holistic approach. Some coaches are bodyworkers or somatic healers.
What do coaching sessions look like?
That depends on what you’d like to get out of it! The goals are set by you, and the sessions can vary greatly. One session could have you exploring ways to become more emotionally intimate, and in the next, you could work on deepening orgasms.
Whether you’re single, in a long or short-term relationship, monogamous or not, don’t settle for subpar sex. Allow good sex to become great. Don’t let anything stand in the way between you and better sex, better relationships, and overall greater happiness!
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